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Lauren LaRusso, LPC, LMHC on Instagram: "DM or comment ‘LETTER’ for the full Letters to Lauren on Substack. Watch the full video at laurenlaRusso.substack.com #affairs #infidelity #love #relationships #family #healing #growth #journey"

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "I’m SO glad you’ve found me and that you’re here — your presence validates just how necessary this work is in the world. I’m here with one mission: To change the experience of infidelity for everyone by expanding our confining narratives about it. By showing you you’re not alone, no matter your role or experience. To allow you to finally feel seen, by voicing the thoughts and experiences you thought only you had. To help you realize that infideli

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "DM or comment ‘LETTER’ for the full Letters to Lauren on Substack. Watch the full video at laurenlaRusso.substack.com #affairs #infidelity #love #relationships #family #healing #growth #journey"

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Lauren LaRusso, LPC, LMHC on Instagram: "There’s a surprise in the middle. The real surprise is when an affair slams you at the part of life where you never thought you’d become compromised or vulnerable. What a twist it can be on the trajectory of our life’s timeline. Go to the link in my bio or LaurenLaRusso.com if you’re struggling because of an affair. I designed suites of resources to help spouses in affairs, affair partners, and betrayed spouses. You can also schedule a session with for co

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Lauren LaRusso, LPC, LMHC on Instagram: "👀 An important lens that sheds light on the large number of “midlife crisis” explanations for affairs, divorce, and previously undemonstrated “selfish” behaviors. Affairs are often dismissed as a ‘midlife’ or ‘life crisis.’ But if we take a closer look at the psychology of what motivates a midlife crisis, what’s underneath it is often someone who has spent much of their life disconnected from themselves for reasons such as: - doing what is expected of th

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Lauren LaRusso, LPC, LMHC | What do you do when your spouse won’t change their work dynamic with their affair partner? Head to LaurenLaRusso.Substack.com for this... | Instagram

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "When we are suffering we 👏 must 👏 become 👏 our 👏 own 👏 hero. We must save ourselves. We must come to our own aid. We must become our own healer. This week I talked to so many affair partners in pain. They felt hopeless, confused, lost, bereft, abandoned, rejected, uncertain, and awash with grief, and like they had given their lives away. When we lose our power, it’s usually because our mind has become trained on only one aspect of our situat

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "DM me “UNSTUCK” to unlock the DEEPEST DISCOUNT on the ENTIRE SUITE that’s designed specifically to help spouses in an affair find clarity and confidence. This suite has every tool that I use in private sessions, and more. When you DM me UNSTUCK, you’re given access to: 📗Get Unstuck E-Book: Uncover the REAL Reasons for Your Affair 📝 The GAIN + LOSS Quadrant: Powerful Exercises to Clarify Your Priorities and Assess What’s at Stake 🆘 The Decision

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Lauren LaRusso, LPC, LMHC on Instagram: "When we don’t get to choose what happens in our lives, we have to choose what we do with it. It’s this CHOICE that makes us resilient, that makes us create something incredible in the wake of heartbreak and loss. I thought I would be married forever. But here’s what I didn’t know: - My own worth. - How to express what I really wanted and needed in a relationship. - What it felt like to be free. - What it would give me to have to crawl through the hellfire

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "DM or comment ‘LETTER’ for the full Letter’s to Lauren on Substack. Watch the full video at laurenlaRusso.substack.com #affairs #infidelity #love #relationships #marraige #family #healing #growth #journey"

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Lauren LaRusso, LPC, LMHC on Instagram: "In his book “US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship” @realterryreal splits the root of infidelity into two causes. 1) Entitlement to take for yourself, and 2) Lack of desire to protect something not deemed worth protecting. Do you agree with Terry Real’s assessment? When I work with unfaithful spouses, I am always honing in on the unique intersection of each of these two root factors for that individual. I find that they often co-

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Lauren LaRusso, LPC, LMHC on Instagram: "Comment or DM ‘LETTER’ for the entire video. This message is one of the most important and true messages about what our relationship pain stands to show us. None of us can run, none of us can hide, because until we learn our lessons based on our unique wounds and patterns, what we don’t repair will continue to repeat. #Substack #coaching #help #affairs #relationships"

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "What’s the story you’re telling yourself underneath your affair? Links for self-help Masterclasses, supportive Memberships and sessions in bio and at LaurenLaRusso.com #affairhelp #marriage #relationships #mentalhealth"

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "The paradoxical triad of affair paralysis. #affairs #infidelity #counseling #therapy #education #learn #grow #fear #change #help #selfhelp #love #family #hope #breakup #heartbreak #grief #real #truth #couples #husband #wife #marry #marriage #divorced #divorce #support"

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "We are no longer 1.) Safe, or 2.) Special. We believed both of those things in the commitment of a marriage, but the affair removes both. #divorce #affairs #infidelity #therapy #therapist #counseling #counselor #mentalhealth #divorcesupport #divorcecommunity #coaching #support #advice #selflove #selfhealing #selfhelp #recovery #marriage #committment #married #couples #partners #safety #security #breakup #breakupquotes #break #broken #brokenheart

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "Watch until the end. You’ll see why affair recovery is so difficult: because of the competing needs of each spouse. The betrayed spouse feels that they can’t react to the affair because they’re being told that their feelings are making a bad situation worse. The unfaithful spouse wonders with every outburst or setback if they will ever be able to recover and is losing hope and patience that things will ever feel good again. The betrayed needs to

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist | In this week’s ‘Letters to Lauren’ on Substack, our letter writer’s struggle demonstrates how our brain responds to affair discovery, which... | Instagram

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Lauren LaRusso, LPC, LMHC on Instagram: "When you’re having an affair, you’re in your own little world. The “love nest” can make it feel like you’re invisible… and invincible. But, an affair makes you neither. And many people having an affair feel the frenetic dance between fear of being caught, and brazen boldness. What this means is that an affair usually requires a person to lie to more than just their spouse. Stories are made up for anyone that comes across the affair couple. Over time, the

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "Is it possible that an affair is purely additive, as long as it’s not discovered? This week, I shed light on how the complex paradox of an affair can both feel regenerative for the person having it, and possibly even for the marriage, while simultaneously being destructive and harmful. Head to the link in my stories, or to LaurenLaRusso.Substack.com for the full coaching video. #marriage #selfhelp #love #relationships #affairs #mentalhealth #rela

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "In my work with unfaithful spouses, there’s an undeniable pattern: The affair feels like the place where they are completely honest. 🤯 They struggle because their marriage is meaningful to them, but over time it has become a place where some level of self-concealment or self-abandonment exists. When an unfaithful spouse doesn’t feel they are capable of the same high level of all-encompassing intimacy and vulnerability at home as in the affair, a

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "💂The guarding of the phone💂 The new arguments where there wouldn’t have been any. The unlocking and closing windows before handing it over. An affair leads to subtle changes in behavior that simply wouldn’t be there if the affair wasn’t happening. The distance between spouses grows, as the charade continues. The spouse having the affair becomes less and less aware of what their behavior really looks like, and the unknowing spouse senses the win

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This week, I shed light on how the complex paradox of an affair can both feel regenerative for the person having it, and possibly even for the marriage, while simultaneously being destructive and harmful. To learn why we act on things that are otherwise harmful to important parts of our lives is an education worth embarking on. You can join my FREE newsletter, “FIDELITY FACTORS: Why We Stray What to Do About It” by going to laurenlarusso.com/contact For this week’s full coaching video on Letters

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "When an affair partner feels angry at how the relationship went or turned out, they may fantasize about or feel compelled to align with the unknowing spouse — feeling just as duped, taken advantage of, lied to, and misused. Taking up justice for an unknowing betrayed spouse is also a justice mission for one’s self as an affair partner. It’s not a clean mission. Head to LaurenLaRusso.Substack.com for this week’s full letter and my coaching respons

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "👀 Does this resonate? 👀 Stuckness in any role of the affair dynamic is compounded by deeper and wider issues than just ONE thing, but for people pleasers, these themes can create internal turmoil that keeps them betraying themselves. Every single resource in the suite at The Affair Consultant is designed to help stuck people-pleasers connect to their truth and find a way forward. Head to the link in my bio for all three Masterclasses for Unfait

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Lauren LaRusso | Affair Specialist on Instagram: "A suspicious spouse often goes to great lengths to get the truth when their instincts tell them they aren’t. The argument about privacy doesn’t hold when a spouse having an affair is engaging in behaviors that violate trust in the relationship. Without mutual trust, a claim to boundary violation is weak compared to the violation of infidelity. Suspicious spouses may hide a camera, track a car or phone, go through phone or financial records, hire

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